O Father Jehovah, please help me!
This gay Jehovah's Witness is suffering. He has a serious dilemma with his gay feelings and desires which totally conflict with Jehovah's standards. Few understand the agony a gay Jehovah's Witness is going through when day and night his imperfect, perverted flesh craves to be and calls out to be, satisfied. Does he need our help just like other Jehovah's Witnesses who are suffering and who need our help? Notice what the Bible admonishes each of us to do for those who are suffering.
1 Corinthians 12:26 - "If one member suffers, all the other members suffer with it.
Psalm 145:19 - "He satisfies the desire of those who fear him;
He hears their cry for help, and he rescues them."
Do we hear and listen to gay Jehovah's Witnesses' cry for help
just as Jehovah does, with the goal of rescuing them?
1 Thessalonians 5:14 - On the other hand, we urge you, brothers, ... speak consolingly to those who are depressed, support the weak, .... And at Acts 20:35 - "you must assist those who are weak."
Here is an awesome article that helps us know how to support the weak.
Click on the title to read the article.
This song's lyrics are encouraging.
Click on the title to see the lyrics and hear the instrumental version.
So when a gay Jehovah's Witness suffers, when he cries out for help,
when he's weak, when he's depressed,
what can we do for him, how can we help him,
how do we speak consolingly to him, how do we support him?
May this post help us to help gay Jehovah's Witnesses, to sincerely and lovingly support them.
Gay Jehovah's Witnesses often reach out for help, a listening ear, not to be judged, but to be understood, to be comforted, to be encouraged, to be reassured. They long for a confidant or even confidants.
Of the well-intentioned would-be comforters whom we reach out to and who do try to help us, we often find that the person is a bit homophobic or just doesn't know what to say. Or the well-intentioned would-be comforter reads us some Scriptures and tells us to pray. But, nothing changes. So when such well-intentioned would-be comforters do try to help, gay Jehovah's Witnesses are often left saying to themselves and to their well-intentioned would-be comforters, "You don't have a clue."
This well-intentioned would-be comforter
doesn't have a clue.
Consider these points so as to avoid
hurting more than helping.
Avoid reaching out in an impersonal way through text or Facebook messages. They are insufficient by themselves to help a hurting gay Jehovah's Witness. Have face-to-face communication with the person, even on Zoom, at a time and place of their choosing.
Avoid jumping into advice and problem solving statements. It can distract you from giving needed spiritual encouragement and comfort, based on what the person is saying, what he needs and wants. They need to be the one asking for advice, asking how to deal with their dilemma.
AVOIDING talking about the person's problems and situation. The person may want to talk. You must listen attentively. You may be a bit homophobic and just don't know what to say, so you let the conversation deteriorate into mundane things like current events, TV shows, and a million other things. If you are a bit homophobic or just don't know what to say, tell the person that. Maybe the two of you can find someone that will listen attentively, that will know how to offer the needed and wanted help and support.
If you're not a gay Jehovah's Witness, don't say, "I know exactly what you're going through." Instead, try saying this, “I don’t know exactly what you're going through, but it seems painful, depressing, and very hard for you, and I am sorry. But I do want to help and support you."
Avoid being too positive. You have to deal with the person's depressing and frustrating feelings. If you rush to change a person's mood, you may risk the possibility that the gay Jehovah's Witness will feel that their feelings, needs, and wants are being discounted.
Now, on the contrary,
for the clueless, well-intentioned would-be comforter,
here are some excellent, important points
to keep in mind when attempting to comfort and console
a gay Jehovah's Witness, in order to be a true and effective confidant,
These excellent, important points were made by a brother
in the June 2021 JW Broadcast.
Here is a 2 minute 11 second video clip of his experience:
Excellent advice! Ask questions! "What do you want me to do for you?" "How may I help?" "What's been happening in your life?" "How can I help you?" Such questions allow you to give meaningful assistance. Don't make the mistake of knowing what a person wants or needs. Ask them questions as Jesus did. At Mark 10:51 Jesus asked: "What do you want me to do for you?" Dignify gay Jehovah's Witnesses and allow such gay brothers and sisters to reveal what is in their heart, again then you can render meaningful assistance. "What do you want me to do for you?"